Photographing yourself nude forces you to appraise your body afresh, there’s nowhere to hide and while there’s every risk it could confirm your worst fears – there’s a reason I never photograph myself from below – seeing your body in that state can help you appreciate its wonder.
It’s well-known the regular, jeans-on selfies can be a confidence boost – either to reaffirm your attractiveness or garner interactions on social media – so it’s fairly obvious nudes can do the same for sexual confidence. Often overlooked is the normalisation of nudes and its effect on body positivity. There’s something quite depressing about asking for a nude and then being sent a snap, shot from above, of a red, angry penis subjected to the mercy of ugly lighting “I admit the cubicle ones aren’t always the best, so sometimes I’ll do a decent one at home and save it to send to her on Friday. She’ll send me a down-the-top shot – or more if she’s at home that day – and I’ll nip to the loo and give her a quick peek.” Any colleagues of Tom needn’t be concerned – usually he’ll have a spare nude ready to go. It can build excitement and maintain intimacy, no matter how far apart you are says Tom, who’s been with his wife for 15 years: “It’s become our regular thing on a Friday afternoon. No more fiddling with a Polaroid or hoping the Snappy Snaps guy developing your film won’t call the feds – digital photography allows us to be right there and ready. In a relationship, of course, nude photos are a way of keeping the passion alive and they’re especially useful in long-distance relationships. Unprompted nudes can have their place, she reckons, but “generally with someone who I’ve been chatting with or dating I wouldn’t send them to a stranger”.
“Sending nudes is great fun I haven’t had anyone to send them to me for a while and I kind of miss that adrenaline rush,” she says. Lingerie designer Marisa says a topless pic does much more for her than a gonzo-shot dick pic and she much prefers to send than receive – when she can.
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